My Shit, Us and Him.

Hello and Happy Monday! 

“Row row row your boat, gently down the stream. Merrily merrily merrily merrily life is but a dream.”

Today was just a somewhat gloomy day. I did not sleep well, it rained and was dark out all morning and I simply felt like meh! Of course the lunch that I tried to cook did not turn out too well and this little line of negativity dragged somewhat through the entire day. What can help? Mostly to talk to my husband but today I needed to be alone for a while, grab a book and head to the next café to do what I really love. Drink coffee, think, write and read. While I felt sad, writing down some notes, I thought about my husband. He is usually really good at feeling happy, being positive and giving me this little smile that I love and makes me forget how bad the day was so far. 

While I sat in this little café today I thought about marriage and relationships. When do you know that he/she is actually the one?  Is it a feeling or a special moment? I will tell you what it is for me and what works for us.  First, I can do all scenarios above in the cartoon and he won’t lose it and pack his things and leave me. We love to laugh and he thinks I am funny. Yeah, I can be pretty funny. We love to talk to each other. He let’s me bitch to a certain extend (almost unbearable extend!) and did not leave me yet. To get married was the best choice because we simply knew it would be great to be together (officially with a piece of paper telling us that we are). We also know that we can do  and achieve whatever we want together. Through him I learned to adapt to anything quicker. (“Basically from 0 to 5000”) We are comfortable together. Months and years later we reached that slightly less exciting stage when we are both more comfortable than ever with each other. Peeing while he is in the bathroom is okay. (Nothing more though, hah!) We can be silly, confusing, sweet and so much more together. We know how to fight and if I forget one or two rules he reminds me. 

We became a team and mostly pull on the same string. Nobody is ever 100% perfect, right (Besides him, mmhm)?! Together we make everything better. The sun will shine even though there are clouds. Sometimes it feels like being with him is a short vacation from reality. We can talk without a period at the end of the sentence. Especially about movies, projects and books. We love sushi. Yay, sushi!  He has many great ideas and we make plans together for the future. (“We? We?”)  We don’t want to imagine life without each other. For him, love is action; for me emotion. We both appreciate the small things we do for each other. My husband has this ability to make me laugh when I need it the most. He just knows somehow. We can laugh so easily. When we have each other, everything feels okay. I am usually just the one freaking out once in a while – he stays calm. Basically, as soon as I met him my life felt better. I found myself prettier, smarter and he just gave me this feeling that everything is “normal”. No problem or condition from the beginning. (He says: “We did everything in order because it was important for me to not mess it up”) We bring out the best of each other. He believes in me and I believe in him. Usually, I am constantly worrying about everything. With him it has gotten so much better. There is just this overwhelming sense that “everything will be okay in the end. And if it is not okay, it is not the end”. (He says: “It is not the end because there is always a solution or a Plan B”)

Does my husband ever annoy me? Do I ever annoy him? Hell, yes! Annoying things my husband does: Usually goes to bed later than I and wakes me up every single time. Snores. Takes his time and is never in a rush (well, he is French!) Annoying things I do: Being German. Thinking about saving money too much.”You talk sometimes like we live under the bridge like Oliver Twist”. That fact that I cannot keep in mind that we are all humans and everything is always so dramatic.  Temper. Punctuality.  Drama Queen. Emotional. My husband says he has a list that he will not take out at this point. 

Over the years you will figure out what annoys you about the other person. You do live with him/her so it is inevitable. It does not matter who you date, eventually, they will make you crazy sometimes. Annoyances aren’t a killer for us and it is worth being together because we just make it work. With one person working slightly more than the other. 

Are you currently in a relationship? Do you know your partner is the right person or do you have doubts? I would love to hear from you. And so does my husband. 

Thank you for reading my blog.