Hello and Happy Saturday!
For me, confidence means that it is essential to love myself 100% first. To love myself means spending time with myself alone, uninterrupted. Treating myself to a haircut at this place , meditation, Yoga, going for long walks, endless hours in bookstore and of course accepting myself the way I am. If you don’t love yourself, economy usually profits. You buy tons of stuff that you actually don’t even need. Makeup, creams, lotions and potions to make you look like this and that. To make you feel better, younger, less wrinkles disappear and whatnot. Most often they are expensive but you feel lovely again and at the same time you actually don’t.
I really learned about mediation, staying calm, loving myself and focusing on the here and now was at SEHES Haus. There I cried for the first time when I listened to my soul. It seems that my relationship to myself is not as happy as I always thought it would be. When Uwe told me to say something nice about myself, I needed to search for words and realized that I need to do some work. All I heard was critic, deprecation and contempt. The further I dive into getting to know myself I realize that I kind of raped myself over the years. I always felt that I am playing a role in this world. To be funny and entertaining, attractive and whatnot but not because I am here right now but rather because I am a silent observer of my daily imprisonment – this lifetime sentence of weird believes that I lived by for years and thought they would be okay. In my experience and what I have learned as a child is that if you achieve a lot, you receive love. Also love is the bonus I receive if I am really good at something. So my self love always depended on me being good. Another thing was that I had to make sure that everybody around me is always happy.
We don’t know how much longer we will be on this planet to enjoy life and this is really the only thing we have for certain. Our biggest treasure. This tiny life we live. Isn’t is crazy that some ask for permission to take care of their own life and take time to enjoy this life? To breath and enjoy life the way you want it to be?
You know what I do these days? Every morning when I am in the bathroom I look at myself in the mirror and say: “Hi lovely. Good morning!” And it feels good. I smile and think about all the good things in my life. I practice some Yoga poses. Then I meditate a bit. Afterwards I make myself a nice breakfast. It is just a feeling that I want to discover who this person really is who looks back at me through the mirror. I want to figure out my true potential. I am – and only I am, responsible for being happy and living and enjoying life to the fullest. I learn to appreciate the little flaws I have. I am unique. My belly and thighs are good the way they are and I take my time to put some lotion on them after I took a shower. Then I start my day. I don’t know anybody who I would rather spend the day than with myself. Okay, enough with all this talk. Some days this works, other days, not so much. Then I just feel beat down by the world and everything in between and drag myself through the day.
Other days, I remember that it is important to take myself out to dinner. It was awesome to sit at a restaurant just with myself. And if you ever do that, you won’t have to worry if he/she will ever call you again.
Some people who haven’t seen me in a while tell me that I am glowing and that I look really good and what my secret is? Or if I am in love. “Yes,” I answer. I am in love with myself. Then of course with le husband. Some tips that work for me: It is important to feel confident on the outside and especially on the inside. It just makes me feel better. Le husband says that it makes me glow, it makes me beautiful. Without putting on tons of makeup and skin creams. Also, I stop comparing myself to others because it just does not get me anywhere. All it does is it makes me miserable. Smiling. Especially at myself in the mirror works. Try it. Then I put on an outfit that makes ME feel comfortable. I look at myself in a positive way, especially when I feel down sometimes. One last important thing that makes me feel comfortable is to never stop learning. Trying new things, reading new books, discovering new authors and making new things usually boosts my confidence.
How do you boost your confidence? I would love to hear from you.
